Kalki Koechlin has long been a vocal advocate for mental health awareness, often sharing insights from her personal journey. In a recent interview, the actor discussed her relationship with ex-husband Anurag Kashyap and the deliberate effort required to build a healthier dynamic post-separation.
The Journey of Healing
Kalki and Anurag Kashyap married in 2011 and divorced in 2015. Kalki acknowledged that the healing process was neither quick nor easy, involving years of work, including therapy. However, she emphasized that therapy is not a universal solution. In an interview with NDTV, she stated, "I don't think therapy alone helps. Firstly, when you're going through a lot of grief, it's sometimes even hard to do therapy because you need to feel your grief for some time. Therapy helps in the long term, and I highly recommend it."
Role of Therapy in Letting Go
She explained how therapy can aid in processing emotions over time, particularly in releasing resentment. "In the long term, if you don't want to hold grudges against some people who've hurt you, it's a wonderful tool to go back way in the past and to cope with the future because people are going to hurt you all the time. So to cope with that, it's a great mechanism over the long term. But I think in that time when it's really raw, when you've really hurt each other, it's very important to have a period of non-communication."
Importance of Distance
Kalki highlighted the value of creating distance after a breakup, sharing a guideline she finds useful. "They say if you've been in a relationship for however long you've been in the relationship for, you should spend half that time being away from each other. If you've been together for six months, three months, you don't communicate. I think it's quite a nice measurement. I don't know who came up with it, but I think it makes logical sense. You need that much time."
Emotional Processing
She noted that it is healthier to vent feelings to trusted friends or family rather than directing them at the person involved. "That's not everything that they are. And then you start to remember the good things you had. And that's when you have a clue. Once you start remembering the good memories from your relationship, that's when you're like, okay, I might be ready to meet this person again."
