Bollywood's ongoing debate about marriage, loyalty, and modern relationships has intensified with actress Gautami Kapoor offering a starkly different perspective from her peers Kajol and Twinkle Khanna. The controversy originated on the talk show Two Much, where Kajol and Twinkle suggested that physical infidelity might not necessarily end a marriage, a view that sparked widespread criticism online.
Gautami Kapoor's Firm Stance on Loyalty
In a recent interview with Siddharth Kannan, Gautami Kapoor, known for films like Fanaa and Student of the Year, was asked to react to the idea that "physical disloyalty is okay, but emotional disloyalty should not be there." She responded with clarity, choosing not to comment directly on the actresses' personal views but firmly stating her own principle.
"For the kind of person I am, physical and emotional disloyalty is disloyalty—period," Gautami declared. She elaborated that the form of betrayal is irrelevant to her. "It doesn't matter to me whether it's physical, emotional, spiritual, transcendental—anything. Disloyalty is disloyalty." She emphasized respect for differing opinions but stood her ground, asserting that her viewpoint is equally valid.
Possessiveness Rooted in Fierce Loyalty
Addressing Kajol's specific comment that physical infidelity isn't a deal-breaker, Gautami explained her contrasting outlook stems from her inherent nature. "I am a very possessive person—honestly speaking. Whether it's my husband, my friends, my children, or even my team, I'm extremely possessive about the people around me," she shared.
The reason for this, she said, is her intense commitment. "That's because I am fiercely loyal. I give my 500% in every relationship—emotionally, physically, in all ways. I'm completely invested. So for me, once there's disloyalty, it takes a huge toll. It becomes a burden I carry." She stressed that the choice to forgive should be hers, not undermined by claims that a betrayal was "only physical."
On Marriage, Expiry Dates, and Modern Pressures
The actress also touched upon the talk show's discussion about marriage having an "expiry date" and a renewal clause. While expressing love for Kajol and Twinkle, Gautami offered a nuanced take. "If you really analyse marriage today, I think marriage already comes with an expiry date—if you don't work on it. If you don't put your heart and soul into it, it will expire," she observed.
She clarified that she doesn't believe marriage is inherently temporary but acknowledged its challenges. "You want it to be for life—but marriage is not easy. You go through many dynamics as a couple," she explained. According to her, all marriages go through phases of expiry and renewal, and navigating them depends on the couple's mutual effort and mindset.
Reflecting on contemporary relationships, Gautami noted a decline in patience. "Earlier, people would say, 'Let's figure this out.' Today, at the first argument, people are ready to call it quits," she said, citing too many options, temptations, and a lack of time or fire to make things work.
Despite these modern trends, Gautami Kapoor remains an advocate for fighting for a marriage. "I'm not from that generation that gives up instantly," she stated. "If you got married for the right reasons, maybe you can give it another chance. Let's fight it out. Let's talk. Let's work things out." She concluded by reiterating that the current era often lacks the bandwidth required to sustain deep, committed relationships.
