The dowry system, despite legal prohibition and decades of reformist rhetoric, continues to mutate and survive within modern aspirations. This persistence is a stark reminder of how deeply entrenched patriarchal norms are in our society.
The Cycle of Silence
Domestic violence thrives in an environment of complicit silence. Neighbours, relatives, and even law enforcement often turn a blind eye, treating it as a private family matter. This normalisation allows abuse to continue unchecked.
How We Normalise Abuse
Common justifications include blaming the victim, minimising the abuse, or citing cultural traditions. The dowry system is a prime example: demands for money or goods are excused as customary, even when they escalate into harassment or violence.
- Victim-blaming: Questions like “What did she do to provoke him?” shift responsibility.
- Minimisation: Comments such as “It’s just a family quarrel” downplay severity.
- Cultural excuses: Traditions are used to justify illegal demands.
The Role of Institutions
Police and courts often fail to enforce laws effectively. The Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961, is rarely implemented rigorously. Many cases go unreported due to fear of social stigma or lack of faith in the system.
Breaking the Silence
Change requires collective action. Education, legal awareness, and community intervention are crucial. Individuals must speak out against abuse and support survivors.
- Report incidents to authorities.
- Support organisations working against domestic violence.
- Challenge sexist jokes and comments.
The former civil servant Gurucharan Gollerkeri, who authored this piece, urges readers to reflect on their own complicity. Silence is not neutral; it enables violence. Only by breaking the silence can we hope to end the cycle.
